Scau-ahch Deviant Goddess
PTSD CSASurvivor Ehlers Bi LoneParent Poet Being jailed by my attackers, there is no justice
Wednesday 17 September 2014
A little
It doesnt hurt so much
The tears dont fall
A smile breaks
Or even a laugh
For a little while
You break through
A fleeting touch
Held momentarily
Or even a bit longer
For a little while
You mean so much
Too much to know
What would you say
Or even would care
For a little while
It all seems so new
To discover and be
Lifes reason again
Or even todays
For a little while
I could dream true
Take the easy way out
Ceed control away
Or even share it
For a little while
For you
Saturday 16 August 2014
My Story, trigger warning
Monday 28 July 2014
Saturday 25 January 2014
Clean boots, dirty boots and scary birds
I'm not going to give an exact location except to say it is somewhere in the southern uplands of Scotland. It is a beautiful part of the country and you are never very far from wildlife.
This is me starting out, or at least, my lovely clean, although well worn, boots.
After all that, this is how muddy my boots got
Tuesday 7 January 2014
Inner child therapy
One of the most important therapies I've done on my healing journey is Inner Child Therapy.
By using meditation you "meet" your inner child. Now, I'm not a big fan of psychiatrist couch meditation or past lives meditation and fully went into inner child therapy with an attitude of "this will never work".
It did work though.
I worked through the guides. I remembered where I was happiest as a child, the place I loved the most. The place I thought my childhood was the happiest.
That was the big house and as a child it was my favourite place to live. The house was huge, we often had bats coming in through the attic or birds drowning in the water tank.
We had horses and paddocks and an orchard full of apple, pear, plum trees and bamboo. The bamboo area had a small field of moss before it and we built dens in the rhodedendron bushes. A lime tree grew by the driveway and every summer hundreds of bees would drink the flower nectar and roll around drunk on the gravel.
We had a stream and tree houses and hedgehogs. I thought it was magical place to grow up.
I met my inner child there, I'd hidden her there in my memory, somewhere I thought was filled with happiness.
In the meditation I was back at that house, standing in the middle of the driveway by the rose beds, she was running towards me with tears streaming down her face. She reached me, just a little kid of about ten, grabbed hold of me and sobbed choking tears.
I'd left her somewhere she was scared and unhappy.
After that initial meeting I had to work through why I'd thought that place was my "safe place". I even went to visit it again. Someone posh had bought it and built a wall and 6ft gate with fake gold on it at the entrance. It is a lovely place but being honest with myself, it was full of bad memories.
They were the best memories I had though.
After working through those memories I was able to take her out of that place and into a new place we've made together.
Now we live on a hill, it's a big hill surrounded by fields below and covered in flowers in bloom. There are always hundreds of seeds floating in the air.
In the middle of the hill under a big old oak tree, is a wooden picnic table.
We sometimes sit there or we lay out a blanket and sit on that. The suns always golden and in the mid afternoon. It is calming and serene just thinking about it.
My inner child is always happy and laughing and full of fun there.
Three of us visit there, me, my inner and dark figure. I can't make out any features of him, he's like a child's drawing, filled in with black pen but real and 3D.
I think he's the security in case something, someone, a bad memory tries to break through into our safe place.
We like him being there, although sometimes he isn't.
It is really worth doing inner child therapy. Not only does it help you reconnect with who you where as a child, it can help break down some of the coping therapies you created and give you great insight into who you were and what you went through.
In some ways my childhood was privileged, we were well off, we lived in a big house, we never had money worries or heating worries or work worries. We were tucked away from the world in a secret idyll.
And that made it not a good place.
Tuesday 31 December 2013
Mans best friend, the faithful black dog
Seven days.
I've been sat here with the black dog.
Depression. I want to write about it, I keep typing out lines and deleting them. It all sounds contrived and false, it's probably the most real writing you'd get from me though.
I want to write about how beautiful depression is, about how exquisite it is to float in the blackness, how you breathe it in. It's a seductress, a haunting lover. How it feels like tinkling ivory piano keys or deep black velvet, warm and soft.
How it sings to you, just you, how you're so special, so utterly amazing and beautiful and wonderful you are.
That's what I let it say to me now.
Years ago it was a different story, years ago it tried to kill me.
I used to let the blackness in, I used to let it consume me, to eat away at me, to destroy my soul.
I drank, I tried cannabis, I tried self harming, I tried suicide. Anything to to block it out, cut it out or get me out of it.
Those where the days when the blackness was filled with faceless screaming monsters, when I couldn't look into it let alone look at myself. It filled my being, it drove icicles of fear right through my heart and I made so many mistakes, always running from the blackness that consumed me, emanated from me, was me.
It's broken my heart and torn me apart me than I care.
It's taken up so much of my life and I want it gone. I don't want this hold over me, I don't want this eternal dance of devoid emotion. I won't let it anymore.
So I dance, I put headphones on and I let the music wash over me, let the music wash it out of me. I dance with it, I love it, I don't let it go, I squeeze the life out of.
I'm too young to let this control the rest of my life, I'm going to tear it up, burn it up, blast it out of the universe.
It's not my friend and it's not faithful.
Monday 30 December 2013
Breathe in more
Upon the snow
Hand in hand
Feel the touch
Amber nectar
Liquid blues
Breathe in
Dont leave
Bend the rule
Lovers skin
Golden Hue
Rescue new
Killer line
Trace blind
Please please
Way upon
Swallows fly
Rubbed in
Tore apart
Pencil thin
Take it in