Part of being a survivor is relearning social interactions to exclude negative and abusive people.
It can be difficult to do when abusive relationships are all you know and learning about red flags and how abusers can charm you is fundamental to seeing through those who don't really care about anything but their own power.
Bullies come in all shapes and sizes and have the insular goal of bringing you down to their level.
Red flags involve such things as stating what issues their target has whilst denying they themselves have issues.
This is a screaming red flag.
Every single person has issues, everyone has things to work through and no one person is free from continual self growth, healing and development.
An abusive person fails to see that they are not perfect and projects their issues onto the target they deem to not have these issues.
It is not difficult to see this behaviour once you realise what is happening and it's at this point you can say "you are not worth it" and, at least, walk away emotionally, even if it is physically not an option.
It takes great strength of character to admit your faults, love yourself and work your own faults through.
It takes an abuser to blame other people.
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